The number 13 – THIRTEEN in itself gives us chills down our spine. We always associate it with being unlucky, something tragic etc because of all the notions associated with it in the past. So why not discuss something similar. Today it’s about THIRTEEN topics that SHOULD NOT BE A TABOO ANYMORE. And sharing it on my blog is somehow empowering me, and for the first time making me feel the strength bloggers have – to share their opinions and views of some serious issues with the world.
— this should not be a taboo anymore —
1. Mental Illness
3. Sex Education
5. Marital Rape
6. Career oriented woman cannot be a good homemaker
8. Women and drinks
9. Talking about honor killing
10. Divorced/separated/widowed woman = Easy Target
11. Single Parent
12. Men can feel pain
13. Financial Status to judge someone
I actually wrote the entire 13 taboos in detail and it was way too long even for me to do a review check. I made some changes in the last moment and am going to talk about the Thirteen taboos in details in a series of posts post this blog (hence the delay in post yesterday). Let this one be just a peek-a-boo on the upcoming series post.
Just because you can’t physically see something doesn’t make it any less real, serious or scary for the person suffering with it. Mental illness needs to be talked about just like any other injury or disease or like a broken leg. Mental illness are of different types ranging from mild to severe like Depression, Anxiety, OCD, Bipolar, Dementia, Schizophrenia,Autism, Attention-deficit and even something which we just neglect Hyperactivity.
The first major reasons are for late diagnosis of these are because we consider them a taboo to be discussed with anyone even a family member and that is cause when the family members consider it a taboo and are not open to the thought that it can happen to anyone. When ever some one is told to meet a psychiatrist we think the person has gone nuts, but the fact is sometimes counselling helps you to understand what you going through. It doesn’t certify you as a mad person. So if you suffer from one, seek help!! If you know someone who is going through a mental illness, find help for that someone.
Yes! it indeed is considered as any other social taboo. There are societies that consider this biological occurrence in female as impure, unclean and even more embarrassing. There are still families who don’t let the woman of the house come close to them, or attend auspicious occasions or do the religious rituals if they are on their menstrual cycle. I mean menstruation signifies the fertility of a woman. If she wouldn’t have been able to have her regular monthly cycle , men wouldn’t have been born. Even talking about periods is considered a stigma. I remember as kids if a girl is sitting on bench during the sports period everyone goes hush hush about it both boys and girls. What is so difficult to understand this? Don’t men get erected early mornings? have we woman considered it as perverseness and not stigmatised u for that then why woman. It sounds more like a disease that we women go through each month. When women buy sanitary pads, shopkeepers put it in a black cover so that no ones knows what you buying as if am buying a bomb to blow up my neighborhood. That smirky smile of the man at the billing counter when he bills the sanitary pad, i just feel like punching him right on face. Or the ads on tv for sanitary pad Blue ink for what? The reality hits when you first see blood instead of the blue color when you hit puberty.
Adolescent girls in developing countries miss schools for at least fives days every month -60 days in a year, due to lack of access to sanitary napkins and unhygienic school conditions only because the issue is not spoken out loud. There are so many issues associated with menstruation that need to be discussed, like irritations, infections, irregularity, pcos, PMS etc so that “That time of the month” becomes pleasant rather than a pain and curse for us. If a woman tells you she is not well consistently when you keep asking her whats wrong with you just understand she is on her periods, or if she tells you directly don’t be taken aback and consider her “ooohh she is too open to discuss all this with me” attitude. #dontlettheperiodstopyou !!!
As much as rape is a social menace so is giving sex education or even talking about sex a taboo. I remember the first time my mother told me about sex or a physical touch which shouldn’t be appreciated. I was in fourth std when my mother told me that if ever anyone touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable just shout out loud no matter who it is or which place you are in. Why can’t all moms tell their daughters about how to be careful? Or tell the boys about how to treat a girl. 1 in every 10 girls in India go through molestation as kids and they never talk about it with anyone even their moms and this leaves a scar in them for an entire lifetime.
Sex education is not just about learning the male and female reproductive system. So many teens in India and abroad go through abortion even before they are 20 because of lack of education about contraceptive methods,sexual health, dysfunction and STDs. This encourages misinformation and myths and false cure. So many men have erectile issue and not talking about it with their wives or family doctor simply impacts their marriage,social and domestic life. And this also results in lack of knowledge in doctors as they are never aware of such illness and how to treat these disorders. Sexual education is necessary to identify and be comfortable with one’s own sexuality.
Let me know if you liked the part 01, it would mean a lot of encouragement for me to post about other topics 🙂 Also anything that you agree with or would want to share your opinion about what should not be a taboo anymore.